By Martha Bush
I accepted Lynn’s 30-day Blessing Challenge as she suggested in her book, Marching Around Jericho. I have shared parts of my journey here with you the past couple of weeks.
As the 30 days were drawing to a close, I thanked the Lord for what I had learned, and was anxious to move forward to a new learning tool. But, then the Holy Spirit spoke gently to me and said, “You are not quite finished; you have one more person to bless.”
“Who could that possibly be, Lord? I have blessed everyone I know, even strangers in Walmart.”
His reply stunned me, “Your Mother! She came to live with me in 2017, and she is still waiting for one blessing that you never gave her. I want you to know I am well pleased with the honor you showed her - you gave her birthday parties, took her on trips, and you traveled many miles taking care of her in her old age.”
“But, there is one thing she always wanted from you that you never fulfilled the way she wanted you to.”
“What in the world is it, Lord”?
“A hug! She desperately wanted you to hug her tightly.”
I tried arguing with Him by saying: “Well, Lord, you know I am not good at showing affection; it’s not my love language. I prefer quality time to sit and talk for hours.”
“Sorry, Martha, but “touching” was her love language. Your heart was in the right place when you wrote her a blessing journal but-------
(Pause in my conversation with the Lord)
My mind flashed back to the time period the Lord was referring to about the blessing journal. I had just read a book entitled, The Blessing. For a brief concept outlined in this book, let’s take a look at the Old Testament story of Isaac giving the blessing to his son in Genesis 27.
This blessing was supposed to be given to Isaac’s first-born son, Esau, but Jacob deceived his half-blind father and Isaac gave him the blessing instead of Esau. It was the custom that once a blessing was given, it could not be revoked. Though deception was taking place, the author suggested that there were elements involved as Isaac gave the blessing that should be practiced in our society today.
- Meaningful Touch: Isaac began by kissing Jacob. (Gen. 27: 26)
- Spoke Words of Value: The smell of my son is the good smell of the earth and fields that Jehovah has blessed. May God always give you plenty of rain for your crops, and good harvest and grapes. (Gen. 27:27-28)
- Pictured a Special Future: May many nations be your slaves. Be the master of your brothers. May all your relatives bow low before you. Cursed are all who curse you, and blessed are all who bless you. (Gen: 27:29)
As you know, when Esau realized that his father had given the blessing to his brother, he wept and cried out,
“Don’t you have just one blessing for me, Father?”
What is Esau really saying? I think he is saying, "I want to know you value me! Please Father, don’t you have just one blessing for me?”
Right then and there, I was determined to bless my immediate family, so I bought 4 journals—one for my husband, one for each of my two daughters, and one for my mother. I filled it with qualities I saw in each of them, expressed how much I valued them, and even painted a special picture of their future. I presented it to each of them as a gift at Easter.
My mother was overcome with joy after she read hers: “That was the best gift you could have ever have given me.”
(Conversation with the Lord continued)
“Martha, it was a great blessing journal you wrote, but you failed to carry out the one thing she wanted most - A Meaningful Touch. How many times did you hear your mother say to you, ‘Please give me a tight hug; not just a little pat on my back.’”
Big tears rolled down my face. It was as though I could hear her crying out to me the same way Esau cried out to his father:
“Don’t you have just one hug for me, Martha?”
And so, I had a talk with the Lord. “Father God, in the name of Jesus, forgive me for withholding a meaningful touch from my mother. Would You do me a favor? Please walk down to her mansion and say, ‘I have a message from Martha. She wanted me to tell you that she is so sorry she didn’t hug you tightly, and wanted me to give you a big hug from her.’”
I just know when Jesus did that, her old osteoporosis bones that were now healed since reaching heaven, danced a little jig right there in front of Jesus.
As for me, a healing took place inside of me.
If there is someone deceased you feel you should have blessed, it is not too late to talk to Jesus about it. As Lynn says: "There is Power in Blessing."